Tuesday, 22 December 2009
Happy Recipes for Happy Holidays!
Tim Tam Terrific Trifle
Simple... Layer:
- sponge cake (the softer the better)
- canned mango
- canned berries
- whipped cream
- crushed Tim-Tams
- custard
Leave in the refrigerator for a few hours... OMG, yummmm. :o)
Easy Peasy Beansies
Mix together:
1 can of 4 bean mix
Olive oil
Crushed garlic (as much or as little as you prefer - I like a fair bit..)
Red onion, diced finely
Salt and pepper
So easy, you can do it with your eyes SHUT!! And it's delicious.
Choc Ripple Biscuit Slicey Goodness
2 packets of Choc Ripple biscuits
2 large containers of cream - whipped with vanilla and sugar
Layer cream and biscuits - standing biscuits on their sides in a log formation. Don't be stingey with the cream!! Cover completed 'log' with cream and set in the fridge for at least 6 hours - preferably over night. Cut on diagonal to show off your culinary skills... Eat it. On your own is best... :oP
If you can't get these right, you shouldn't be allowed in a kitchen. They taste amazing, and will impress, so please do steal these recipes!
Have fun cooking (or maybe just slapping together, since no actual cooking is involved... haha)
A. xo
Tis the season to get fatter... falalalala lalalala
1. I'm going to see my parents, my Brother, his Girlfriend, my Nana, my Uncles & Aunties, my Cousins & their families, my Grandparents, and more than likely a few friends from back home. yeehaww!
2. I'm going to EAT. A lot. I won't intend to, but there is good probability that I'll put on about 5kgs... ouch.
3. I'm going to run every day in the fresh air, in a last ditch attempt to stave off those 5kgs, while someone else deals with Eli.
4. I will be cooking for loads of people!! YAY!! I will list my recipes in a new post...
5. I'm going to play cards, lots and lots of cards.
6. I'm going swimming, and I don't care if you think I look terrible in swimmers.....
7. I'm going to sleep during the day, at least once over the 10 days I'm away, regardless of whether or not Eli is awake.
8. I'm going to tell each member of my family that I love them. It's important.
9. I'm going to take my husband and son to the Bunya Mountains. Google it.
and, lastly...
10. I'm going on a facebook strike. I will attempt the unattainable, and vow to stay off facebook for an entire 10 days.... I'm going to need all the strength I can muster, so please, pray for me......
What are YOU doing on YOUR holidays????
A. xo
Sunday, 20 December 2009
Boxes, lists and really wide tape = MOVING TIME!
Saturday, 19 December 2009
Dedication:
Anyway, I just wanted to say a few things, mainly for my own benefit, that reflect how I am feeling right now...
Kaz and I have been best friends for years. She and I became close around the time I had my first "boyfriend". I was about 15 at the time. That's a total of 9 years. We got to know each other pretty quickly, sharing secrets, and strategies on boys and matters of the heart. We shared a love of poetry (writing it) and liked the same music. She's a bit older than me, almost 6 years older in fact, but it's never really made any difference to our friendship.
I wouldn't say we were besties straight off, but we were extraordinarily close from the very beginning. I guess that's how you know you've found yourself a lifelong friend.
The cement to our bond came when my "boyfriend" "dumped" me... I was 17 by that stage, and severely heartbroken. Kaz distracted me in my thoughts, hugged me while I cried, and let me know it was all gonna be ok. She'd been through the death of her dad, whom she was particularly close to, and so she was more than aware that feelings of loss can be overcome.
Over the following years, we got up to stuff, mischief of course - clubs, drinking, music, road trips, weekends away, more boyfriends etc etc etc. None of it was too serious, but when you're 18, everything is cool... We got through heaps of tough times together, and I believe we will always be soul sisters for this fact. We lived together when I first moved out of home - for almost 3 years we lived together. Don't get me wrong, we had our moments of being cranky with each other, but it never lasted long, and we always maintained our solid bond throughout.
Kaz looked after me (everyone really). She was always cooking. She's always happy. She is easily loved, and rarely forgotten. She's not Japanese, contrary to common misconceptions...
We have so many "you had to be there's" and "personal jokes" that we could have written a series of books. She was there when one of my exes was abusive to me. We held each other's hands when a friend of ours was killed. She has personally warned each man I've dated that should they hurt me, she'd kill them... She was there when I graduated from being an apprentice, to being a fully fledged hairdresser. She was there when I got married - maid of honour. Now, I've had my first child, and she's never met him. She's my very best friend, my sister, and she's never even so much as held my son. I am gutted. She'll be married in a few short weeks, and I'm not going to be her bridesmaid. I won't get to make a daggy speech, or tell her husband that I will crush his testicles if he even so much as makes her cry. I've never even met this guy.
I may crush his testicles anyway - but maybe I'll wait til they have their kids..
I wanted to tell you all of this, because I miss her. I want her back in my life, and it's killing me a day at a time. I love her like she's my sister, cos she is my sister. She's the one person I expected to have in my life forever - I never even wanted to live in different towns... >> That's another great reason to crush her fiance's testicles...
I know my baby is gonna love her, when he finally meets her. And I genuinely want our kids to be best friends too. Generations of friends in the making. I want to see her get married. I want to be with her, holding her hand, coaching her to push when she's giving birth to her first baby.
I love her incredibly. That's even clearer to me, since I haven't had her around. I can't wait to see her again, and I'm sure, that will be a day neither of us will ever forget.
Love A. xo
To have or not to have?
That said, I truly believe there is a misrepresentation of parenthood out there... So all those "not everyones" out there - this is for you!
I've been reading a great book, Babies! by Dr Christopher Green. Of course, as the title suggests, it is a book on babies, most of which I thought I had down-pat. I realised that, although I have a very good grasp on certain things, I have been misled by so-called professionals, just like many many other mums out there. It's no great revelation, it's just a clarifying moment for me... For example: I read, and was expressly told by midwives and doctors, that skin to skin contact directly after the birth was not only amazing for bonding, but downright essential for a good start in life. BULL! Yes, of course it's great for bonding, that part is true, but the implication is that if you fail in those first few hours after the birth of the thing you hold most precious to you, then you've failed them for life, and things will go badly from here.
How stupid is that?
If that were the case, as Dr Green points out, all adoptions would fail. Mums who had caesers wouldn't be able to develop the same kind of relationship as a naturally birthing mum. I was actually a subscriber to this nonsense, to the point where I was stressing about what to wear during birth so that I could easily get skin to skin contact with my son after he was born! How ridiculous! In an ideal world, we'd have dreamy 'orgasmic' labours, feel like a million bucks afterward, hold our baby for the first time, skin to skin of course!, and love and adoration would fall around us like a veil of perfection...... Blah!! That's not what happens!!!
This is what really happens...
You spend hours in agonising labour (perhaps not, for those who are scheduled c-sections), you've been ripped to shreds - either by a scalpel, or a massive noggin stretching the bejeepers out of you.. You're tired, dazed and confused about this ever so small thing they're giving you.. You're numb from all the action, and then you feel guilty cos you don't automatically love and adore this being you've created the way you've been told you will ("if you hold it skin to skin.."). Don't feel guilty if this was you. Bonding and love takes time, and it will happen. Just let it be!
The other thing I wasn't really aware of was the "in-room care" you undertake when you've had your cherub. This sounded great to me, as opposed to the "cold, noisy nursery" in the hospital. I now believe this was all just a ruse, to get the nurses out of helping me..... I needed sleep and rest. I didn't get it, because I was sure that having my baby sleep in the plastic crib beside my bed was for sure the way to go.... No way!!! Take him, let him sleep in another room, and I will rest.... I'll be doing that next time, that's for sure.
I've also been reading a little about post natal depression. Apparently it's not as psycho crazy as people make out. I am about 98% certain that I still suffer from minor bouts of PND. Anyway, if you want to know more about that, I honestly suggest you read this book..
Ok, that's all from me today! (don't cheer so loud....)
he he he
A. xo
Friday, 18 December 2009
Who are you?
Wrinkly? Me?
Happily, the movie ends with all the "First Wives" taking control back and hitting their less than admirable low life husbands (ex) where it truly hurts. It's pretty cliche in a lot of ways, but I guess it's all about girl power and - wouldn't ya know it - regaining identity!! Wahoo!! he he he
Make sure you do something for you every day, self love is the most important thing to remember, when attempting to be a good wife and mother!!
Tuesday, 15 December 2009
"You want... moooorrrrrre?????"
But it's true!! I imagine most mums feel this way. I don't know that for sure, but I assume it's the case. It's a strange feeling - because I think about being pregnant again, feeling the little flutters of movement, imagining the unknown, and it makes me feel really excited. Then, the reality creeps up on me and reminds me quietly that I will then not only have one child that wakes me up through the night, but possibly two... two children's nappies to change... two kids to carry around and stop from touching things...
two seems like a really big number...
I have to restrain myself though - I'll be honest. It's really tempting just to go for it and get pregnant again. (I'm sorry about the pictures "go for it" conjures up - I promise it was NOT intentional...)
I wonder how I would feel about number 2. It's not going to be exactly the same as my first - cos I've already been there, done that, so to speak. It's going to be really great having an idea, however inaccurate, of what I'll be receiving at the end of it. I wonder if the pregnancy will go quicker because I'm not just me, waiting to have a baby, I'm a mum, with one already keeping me very occupied. It's always going to be an adventure, of this, I am sure!
I want to hear about your feelings on this.... Go ahead and leave a comment! :)
A. xo
Monday, 14 December 2009
Sink and swim.
Thursday, 10 December 2009
***Monster Children***
I encountered one such demonic child today, and it took every ounce of self control not to turn all mummy on this kid. She had it coming to her - and when I say "it", I refer to a roundhouse kick to the head (not literally, of course, cos that's horrible..)
Anyway, this kid was full on screaming at her mother. The ability she had to switch the tears and temper on and off was truly enviable. But then, it occurred to me, that this mother had created her daughter that way for whatever stupid reason she'd made up in her head. Maybe it was cos she was disciplined too much as a child, perhaps it was because she wasn't - we'll never know. But I felt sorry for this kid, who is going to grow up a brat. She's never going to know what it's like for people just to do stuff for her cos she's sweet, or for her to have friends that love her for who she is, not how she'll react if they "dump" her.
I guess every parent starts out thinking "my kids are never going to be like that"... and I am one of those parents ... but at some point along the way, it's like a decision is made that changes the course of your life. I understand it I suppose. Some things aren't that cut and dried, so you decide to err on the side of caution and not discipline but instead, just divert attention, or soothe. But then, those moments keep happening, and before you know it, your kid's a monster. It's insidious and sneaky, but I guess that's what happens. No one would choose for their child to be despicable.
I just hope that I don't have my "kid" coloured glasses on when it comes to my children. Nothing would be worse than having such a beautiful child, and then ruining him with misguided love.
It's hard to know... but I sure as hell am gonna try!
A. xo
Wednesday, 9 December 2009
Miracle Lasagne
Hey, so, I pinched some ideas for a killer lasagne recipe from a friend of mine (thanks HB) and I wanted to share it since it was just so goooood!
Chicken breast stirfry pieces chopped into small cubes.
Bacon (as much or as little as you prefer).
Mushrooms.
Onion.
Basil, cashew and Parmesan chunky dip.
Sour cream.
Thinly sliced pumpkin pieces.
Baby spinach leaves.
Lasagne sheets.
Cheese!!
Seal the chicken in some oil. Add onion, mushrooms and bacon - soften. Add basil dip and sour cream.
That part's now done!
Layer lasagne sheets, chicken mix, pumpkin, baby spinach and cheese until you get to the top of the dish. Cook until cheese bubbles and browns (approximately 40 minutes on 180 - 200*c). Stand for half an hour then serve.
OMG. Yum!
If you didn't understand my recipe, leave me a comment or question!
Happy cooking!!
A. xo
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"Self" feeding.
I have to say, as a mum, I am in favour of BLW (the method we've adopted) as opposed to pureeing, because, let's face it, it's easier. Some are vehemently opposed to one or the other, but I actually can (now) see the pro's of both. For instance:
With finger foods, baby learns hand eye co-ordination, as well as hand to mouth movements.
With pureed foods, you know exactly how much baby has eaten, and if he needs more.
With finger foods, baby learns texture and chewing.
With pureed foods, baby can have a variety of flavours in the one meal - namely, a pureed version of the family's meal.
In reality, I no longer believe you should do either one of these options on their own. Let me tell you why.....
This morning, my son, who is by nature a sweet, loving, happy soul, was grizzling (what's new??). He'd had a sleep, a bath, a breast feed, and panadol (because of nasty teething pain) and for all intents and purposes had no real reason to whinge.
So, I took him down to play with his toys. He wouldn't leave me alone!! He was grizzly and needy, and just wouldn't settle. I gave him a rusk and popped him in his chair - which sorted him for all of 5 minutes, and when he would have no more of his high chair, I tried again with the toys. In the meantime, I'd boiled myself some eggs. I was in the process of eating them, and Eli kept clawing at me trying to get my food. It was at that point I finally decided to get some baby food out of the cupboard - an extra huge 170g jar of apple muesli (pureed). He ate practically ALL OF IT!!! That's more food than I've EVER seen him eat - it's probably the equivalent to 2 jars of normal sized baby food. A lot of food for a baby...
This poor child - I've been starving him!!! All this time, I've put cucumber, bananas, apples, potato, carrots and capsicum in front of him to eat (which I will continue to do between meals..) and all he's wanted is to have a full tummy!! He ate really well too from the spoon (opened his mouth wide and put his lips onto the spoon to get it all off) - he's that little bit more ready for solids now, perhaps because of the finger foods - who knows? All I know is that he enjoyed that meal more than any other I've ever given him.
** SO, MUMMIES:: Be warned - if you decide to go with baby led weaning - just because a child doesn't eat all that he's given, it doesn't mean he's not HUNGRY!! Feeeeeeed him!!!!!!!!!
He was a ball of laughs after I fed him properly, and now he's down for his midday nap. I'd say he feels a whole lot better now - and with this seemingly simple, but obscure revelation I've had, I do too!!
When you have kids - try everything, until something works!
A. xo
Been thinking......
Later that day, I was thinking - What happens to me when this little boy no longer needs me? He'll be all grown up, maybe have his own family, and he won't need me anymore. What is it going to feel like when he's a teenager, lashing out at me with hateful words? It's going to break my heart! I literally started to cry at the thought of these things... silly right? But I guess it'll happen one day. I just hope I know what to do, other than bawl! :o)
Sending a thought out to my mum, who had to deal with me in my teens.... I love you Mum! And I still need you....... xo
A. xo
Monday, 7 December 2009
Nobody told me there'd be days like these.
I wish I knew everything, but apparently, I don't. I wish I was the one in total and complete control, but apparently, I'M NOT! Eli has turned 7 months, and with that, it seems, has come tantrum chucking, wobbly throwing, ALL OUT WAR! I never expected to have to discipline my baby... but I guess, that was among many things I did not expect.
He's just developing his personality - I get it! But he's occasionally so intolerable I'd be just as happy to leave him in his room all alone to figure it out himself. Mind you, I simply cannot do that.... He's far to adorable and wonderful to torture like that. At bed time, when he's fighting tooth and nail to stay awake, that's different.. but in general terms (excluding previously stated bed time), leaving him to cry is just not acceptable.
So, in light of all this new information, I'm trying to teach him to sign. This way, he doesn't need to talk to tell me what he wants. He can show me! I'll say simple things in natural circumstances, like "Would you like more?" while signing "more"; or "Have something to eat," while signing "eat". I think he's ready for it too. The other day, I was visiting my sister in-law and Eli was playing with a plastic cup. (He sometimes will drink from a cup if I'm holding onto it.) Anyway, he kept bringing the cup to me. I thought about it for a moment, and decided to see if he wanted something to drink. Turns out, he was killer parched, and drank HEAPS of water!! This is how I know that my "baby" knows what he wants, and needs ways to ask for it. If you're keen to check it out, try www.signingstars.com.au or www.australianbabyhands.com. They'll at least get you started with some info.
Good luck to you all!!
A. xo
Monday, 30 November 2009
Crying it out....
I would be a bad mother, however, if I didn't do this. My gorgeously adorable happy little boy has, over the last few weeks, become a real drag... He refuses to go to sleep when he's tired, and if I manage to convince him that he needs a sleep, he only does so for the minimum period of time - 30-50 minutes. Ordinarily, I would just let him be, pick him up, play with him a little, let him loose in the playpen. BUT, more recently, he has been waking up cranky and irritated, which, needless to say, is horrible for both of us.
So, I have had to take a different tactic. He'd turned into what I call a "Sleep Brat". He thinks he's in control, and can choose if he wants to sleep or not, no matter how tired he is.
I beg to differ. I am the boss.
So on Saturday afternoon, after a FULL ON day out and about with his Mimi (my mum), Aunty Sharni and I - shopping of course - he needed a big sleep. 2 hours or so would have been sufficient. Even and hour and a half would work. But he had different ideas. 30 minutes later he wakes up, cranky and grizzling. So, mum goes up and pats his bum for about 20 minutes. He falls asleep twice or more, and every time, in his stubborn "I'll-do-what-I-want" way, he forces himself awake again and cries. So, we leave him there to scream it out. It's more like screaming in an angry way, rather than crying cos he thinks no one loves him anymore. He's peeved. This is a full on tantrum. Now that the battle lines have been drawn, if we back down now, we've lost, and it'll just get harder from here.
Almost 2 hours later, we've checked on him several times, tried to get him to lay back down and go to sleep, and he's winding down the pace with smaller, defeated whimpers. This is when we all breathe a sigh of relief. He's given up, finally!! He's dead to the world asleep.
That was traumatic. For me, not for him. He woke up about 2 hours later, had a feed and dropped straight back off to sleep. He was exhausted. He ended up sleeping really well Saturday night. When he finally did wake up for the day on Sunday morning, he was happy and cheerful. It was like he didn't even remember it! Just in case, though, I gave him tons more cuddles and kisses...
We had a great day Sunday, but again, it was pretty fast paced and he needed a decent sleep that afternoon. So, we engaged in battle number 2. This time, it was to get him to go to sleep in the first place. I had him asleep, and as soon as I tried to put him into his bed, he'd crack it. It wasn't because of his bed, it was simply him trying to reassert himself. I couldn't let him win after the massive victory we'd had the day before, so I patted him, cuddled him, reassured him, and left. It took only 45 minutes of intermittent yelling on his behalf and he was asleep. Out cold.
I am finding today (Monday), that he is coping a whole lot better with life in general. I haven't needed to give him nearly as much pain relief for his teething woes. I also have found he goes to sleep more willingly. However, I know that I will have to continue in this vein for a little longer, because his midday nap (which he's currently engaged in) wasn't so smooth...
I like to feed him to sleep, which I don't have any dramas with, but sometimes, I can feed him until the cows come home (even when he's absolutely 'past it' tired) and he will fight to the death to stay awake. I used to just give up and plop him back in his playpen, only to be hit with an onslaught of whingeing and crying because simply nothing will make him happy. Eventually, after I have almost lost it completely, he'll go to sleep. Sometimes this would take hours, and he would miss a nap time altogether.
This time, however, I fed him, he rubbed his eyes, grizzled, wanted to sleep... so I put him in his cot, on his tummy. He cried a little bit here and there for about 5-10 minutes and then fell asleep. If the phone hadn't rung at that point, he would have gone down without a hitch - but it did ring, and woke him, only to restart the 10 minute process again, but this time with a little more vigor.
He is learning, and he will be able to be put in his cot and go to sleep without all the fuss very soon, I'm sure. I'm not going to recommend Crying It Out, but I will say this: What is better? Cranky, unhappy, unhealthy mother and child? Or knowing you have done what you had to do, no matter how difficult for YOU?
I never wanted to use a method of sleep training that involved crying, but I knew that if I didn't set the limits now, then my son had one over me.. and that would spoil my beautiful child. That would have been on my head, and THAT, I could never deal with.
Good luck mummies out there.... You're doing the best you can!
Love A. xo
Thursday, 26 November 2009
Inventing Mums
If you know of an amazingly practical, great quality baby innovation that you have used and found invaluable, you need to let me know!!
I'm starting a new business - one that will feature all kinds of random essentials that most mums don't really think are necessities until they have their babies and find out they need them....
Please leave a comment if you know anyone, or if you have designed something. Anything is welcome. Australian businesses are preferred, but I will look outside OZ to find the perfect ensemble of items!!
Thanks y'all!!
A. xo
Up up and AWAAAYYYYY
He's having a blast, but I tell you, I am not. I'm terrified of him crashing down and breaking something (of his own.. ie- head)
It's not so much that I mind he's doing it, or that I have to sit next to him while he does it so he can't hurt himself dreadfully, but it's the fact that I just never know what he's going to do next! Will he try to walk and I don't see him?? Is he going to figure out how to escape his cot and find a power point?? I'm truly scared..
But hey, millions upon millions of kids survive the transition to toddlerhood, so I guess mine will too.. haha
A. xo
Monday, 23 November 2009
And so ... it begins ...
Saturday, 14 November 2009
Trouble in Paradise...
Tuesday, 10 November 2009
Promo Time:
Wednesday, 7 October 2009
6 months on...
A. xo
Wednesday, 26 August 2009
Weight.... how much?????
Alert - MUST BUY!
All I want for Christmas....
A. xo
Tuesday, 14 July 2009
By the way - I'm still fat...
1,2,3... Roll over!
Monday, 13 July 2009
Miraculous
Monday, 13 April 2009
Disappointment is the word..
Thursday, 9 April 2009
The beginning of the .. well .. beginning.
Wednesday, 8 April 2009
Pregnant, swollen and uncomfortable!
Help!! My ring is stuck!!
Tuesday, 7 April 2009
Soldiers of disease! Preparing to protect.
Benefits of Homeopathic Immunisation
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3. Homeopathic immunisation protects against diseases for which no vaccine exists; for example, the 'B' strain of meningococcal (meningitis) disease that is responsible for most infections in countries such as Australia.
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5. Recent Australian research showed that homeopathic immunisation provided 90.4% protection against childhood infectious diseases. This figure is consistent with overseas studies. It also compares favourably with the 75-95% protection rates offered by vaccines.
6. Homeopathic immunisation is easily distributed and dispensed. One dose usually consists of a small, round, sugar pill that is dissolved in the mouth - pleasant for all ages. It does not need needles or syringes, require refrigeration, or depend on teams of trained health workers for distribution or administration. It is clean, natural, environmental medicine at its best.